GAY PRIDE IN GOUDA, WHERE THE CHEESE COMES FROM!

Every year a different town in Holland is chosen for the national last-weekend-in-June Gay Pride parade -- named Roze Zaterdag (Pink Saturday).  This year:  Gouda!  (We pronouce the name of the town and its cheese completely wrong in English.)  Besides Roze Zaterdag, there is a major Gay Pride hoo-hah in Amsterdam every August which is a boat parade through the canals.  I've never seen it.  Can't figure out why.  Maybe it became big after I moved away.

My friends American Christopher and Peter, who live in Rotterdam, always attend Gay Pride in whatever town it's in.  They  invited me to meet them and their houseguest Beverly there.  I'd never been to Gouda.  It was a bit of a hassle to get there because the train tracks were being fixed, so I had to take a train AND a bus.  Got off the bus at the wrong place, either because the bus driver couldn't understand MY Dutch or I couldn't understand HER Dutch.  Probably both.  Much as I bemoan the intrusion of smart phones into our lives, I probably would have never found my friends if we both didn't have one.

It was a beautiful sunny day -- quite a treasure in Holland any time of the year.  Gouda is a lovely

 city of 70,000.   It was a BIG DEAL to the Goudenaars (that's what they call themselves) to be hosting a national event, and the town was decked out.

Waiting for my friends to find me, I encountered this adorable couple.

Actually a trio.  That is a PROUD pup!  But she could have done a bit more work on her costume.

And we marched -- not such a long time through such a small city.  I must admit, it was a great treat to be in a Gay Pride event that wasn't as massive as San Francisco's.

The pink t-shirts with the star are the Socialist Party. 
The front says "Rode voor Roze" -- Red for Pink.

It was easy for the four of us to stick together.  Peter's yellow shirt was a great help.

C&P have been together for a loong time.  Their energy toward each other
is so affectionate and playful.  Great to be around them.

Beverly is Peter's cousin from California.  I cannot believe I don't have a photo of her talking to someone.  This woman is a networker extraordinaire.  And it comes from her heart.  She is genuinely interested in people and passionately devoted to helping women, who are doing any kind of business or cultural work in the world, connect with each other.    We got luscious vegan smoothies at a little shop owned by a young woman.....

  Beverly got her business card, so that she could recommend Miss Nice Banana to other travelers.  You go, Beverly!  We need more women like you.  

Beautiful Dutch Dykes

"Meer Dan Gewents" = "More than Wished For." 
The contingent of gay parents with their children.

More Gay Parents (and coincidently beautiful Dutch dykes)

Some Dutch take the pinkness of this day VERY seriously!

"Autism is also Diversity" & a protest against Chechnya Persecution.  

This Gay Pride march was a very big tent with room for everyone.  I love that about us.

A happy, well-adjusted child of gay parents.


A Drag Queen or two... or Three....

An old man trudged grimly through the happy crowd.  

He wasn't going to let any damn Pink Saturday keep him from doing his shopping.

Our short parade ended at the town square with its magnificent City Hall, built in 1450.

When this was built, it was a powerful statement of the ascendance of secular political power over religion.  This was quite an advance over the Catholic Church making decisions. 

Then we explored the booths....

One of the few booths focused on lesbians -- this one for women of color.  If you're noticing that there are more men than women in this blog -- it's true.  There were many dykes in the crowd, but not so many women-oriented booths or women at booths that were just generally gay-oriented.  

But the Dutch army had a booth, and there WAS a nice lady soldier there.....

The bumper sticker reads "Homosexuality and Martial Power."  Not a frequently seen bumper sticker in my own country.

AND the gay tax collectors had a booth!

Can you imagine the IRS having a booth at a Gay Pride parade?  Not yet!  

Ah, here's Beverly chatting with someone --  a tax collector.  She got his phone number in case she had trouble getting her VAT taxes returned at the airport.  

 
Don't know what this building across from the City Hall is.  It's just so damn beautiful.

And we spent the rest of the day exploring Gouda.  Perhaps that'll be another blog.

An Amsterday

The view from my friends' apartment.  Note the flower-bedecked bicycle in the lower right corner.  
There are many scattered throughout the city.  I heard that an American does them.

I'm back in Amsterdam for the first time in nine years.  I lived here about half-time between 1986 and 1994.  I went back and forth between Amsterdam and San Francisco during that time.  Hard to believe I actually did that.  I fell in love with this city then and had many adventures and romances and happy times.

It's very strange to be back.  I've changed.  Amsterdam has changed.  The world has changed.  Do the city and I still fit together?  I'm still figuring it out.

Last night, friends Lieke and Elizabeth fixed dinner at their apartment.  Lieke and I go back to 1986.  Elizabeth has been her partner for more than 10 years.  I felt so at home in their home, both of them taking care of me.

Elizabeth pours the wine for a fabulous meal.

Today, I visited the biggest museum, the Rijksmuseum.  Got there when it opened to avoid the crowds and wandered around.

This may look like one of those gorgeous still lifes but in fact it's a POLITICAL statement.  At the time, 1670, the House of Orange was in eclipse. Their enemies had forbidden anyone to publicly support them.  But you COULD still paint a picture of fruit -- any fruit.  The title of this painting, "Viva Orange," makes the subversive meaning clear.  It took guts for Jan Davidsz de Heem to give it that title and paint not one but TWO oranges.  You go, Jan Davidsz!

I love all depictions of The Last Judgment, with fabulous demons torturing the damned.  So creative!  These small images are from a huge triptich.  On the opposite side of the frame, the good folks are entering Heaven.  BOOOOORING!

Then it was on to the very small section of modern artists.

I'm sorry, I did not record the (obviously female) artist's name.  This is hilarious and luscious, no?  It is the size of a coffin.

Then I met up with Lieke and it was on to the Stedelijk, the modern museum.  The Stedelijk is the NASA of museums, experimenting with technology like drones and weird stuff.  Much seems from outer space.  And not so easy to photograph.

  This is a mesmerizing video of concrete blocks floating slowly over the Scottish highlands.  I didn't understand if they used drones or were manipulating video.  It was magical to watch.  Ultimately all the dozens and dozens of blocks come together langorously in a huge mass.  When the last block dropped into place, it was very gratifying.  Hmmm.... I wonder if this sounds interesting to you.  Maybe not!

Then it was time for Lieke to go home and for me to wander around my dear Amsterdam.

I've never seen a Polka-Dot Bike Bell before.

Cyclists and Flowers Everywhere

A very funky, not to say strange, frame shop.  I remember it from when I lived in the neighborhood.  So few of these quirky corners are left.

It's late.  Tomorrow I'm meeting my friends in Gouda for Roze Saterdag -- Gay Pride.  Gotta go to bed.

There's Something About Blue

When it comes to flowers, I'm a blue freak.  I love bright, strong colors in general.  But I get such enormous pleasure looking at blue.  Why?  I don't know.  But plants with blue flowers take pride of place in my garden.  I have a vine that is supposed to have turquoise berries that Hector, my friend and gardener, has been moving to different places.  One year it had one pale turquoise berry.  Aqua, really.  I will never forget that berry.  Now the vine is on the back fence.  We'll see what happens this Fall.

But now my garden is in its full glory.

 AND HERE'S THE BLUE

When Calla & LauRose left San Francisco, they FORCED me to take an 

enormous amount of plastic silverware, because they couldn't face the prospect 

of throwing it all out. I have always resented this, but now finally I have found 

a use for their bounty.  This is my strategy for keeping squirrels from 

eating my lobelia flowers.   I prefer to think it's squirrels rather than rats.

BONUS PHOTO:  POODLE OF MYSTERY

Hello from Boulder!

NOTICE THE BRIGHT COLORADO SUN.

My niece Rose moved to Boulder from Oakland in February, for the adventure of it, and to be with her boyfriend Lawrence, who is going to grad school there.  I'm Rose's Parental Unit, so I had to check it out.  (Lawrence has received the Parental Unit Seal of Approval.) Boulder is its own special place, as everyone told me when I announced that I was going there to visit.  And I have found it to be so.  

This bike shop/tap room/coffee bar may be the only one in the universe.  And it is CERTAINLY the only one that serves free coffee flights every Friday morning.  What are coffee flights, you ask.  Why, silly, they are three consecutive cups of coffee, the first light, the second dark roast, and the third espresso.  They are served by a beautiful and knowledgeable barista who is very happy to tell you about the origin of each cup.  And she didn't even make me feel like a nerdy dweeb for using 1/2 & 1/2 -- although she did acknowledge that it's usually not done. 

In the foreground, Lawrence, on his 2nd cup.  Oh yes, they give you
some bubbly water to cleanse your palate when you're done.

Anyhow, the coffee comes from Ampersand Coffee Company, whose symbol is so weird that it is not recognizable as an ampersand, the most delightful of punctuation marks.  Disappointing, but let's move on.  Ampersand works directly with WOMEN coffee farmers & tries to eliminate as many middle men (& women) as possible so that the farmers get a good fair price.   & then, your donation -- whatever you wish -- goes to a good cause.  Talk about virtue! Is this a great way to start a day or what??!?

Then it was on to the Dushanbe Teahouse for breakfast. Dushanbe in the Republic of Tajikstan is the sister city of Boulder.  The Dushanbe folks built a fabulous teahouse, cut it into pieces, and rebuild it in Boulder.  (Maybe they were inspired by Boulder's reputation for virtue.)  This teahouse is just wow wow wow:

 Hey, Dushanbe, are you up for being San Francisco's sister city too?   In return, we can send you.... hmmm... I know!  A fabulous Victorian cafe! 

But of course a restaurant this awesomely beautiful doesn't have to have good food.  We know that. 

But it does.

At the bottom, a Banh-mi breakfast sandwich with fried eggs and pork belly.  On the right, Kookoo Sabzi, a Persian herb omelette with baba ghanoush, crispy saffron rice, walnuts & house made naan. At the top, Mexican chilaquiles.  I didn't try the chilaquiles, but Rose and Lawrence vouched for them.  The other two dishes were exceptional.  Wonderful strong flavors.   

Today, we're going on a bike ride to somewhere with more delicious food.  More later.
  

"AND A LITTLE CHILD SHALL LEAD THEM...."

FROM THE FUNNIES PAGE OF THE SAN FRANCISCO CHRONICLE, MARCH 24, 2018

Folks, I wrote long and thoughtfully (at least I thought so) about the March for Our Lives and these wonderful responses to by cartoonists Hilary Price ("Rhymes with Orange"), and  Jerry Scott and Jim Borgman ("Zits").

And then I accidentally deleted it all.  And now it's past midnight.  

Let me just say I'm terrified and deeply moved by what's going on in our country.  I have always believed in the power of democracy, of people working hard to elect other people who feel like them about the important issues in our world.   Like you all, I'm in despair over Crump.  But I am so excited by these kids saying, shouting, repeating, "Get rid of assault weapons or we will vote you out of office!"  That is, indeed what democracy is all about.  And voting is just the teeny tiny tip of the iceberg.  It's a fuck of a lot of work to elect good people, especially because:

1. The bad guys (almost) always have more money than the good guys.
2. Fear is a really powerful emotion, and anyone who chooses to manipulate voters with it can become powerful themselves.

But there really is no choice but for us to do this work.  We must do it for our world, for our children.

(Full disclosure:  I don't actually have children, but I do have a niece who is very dear to me who calls me her Parental Unit.)

We gotta. Let's take back our country.  We are the majority.  That is clear.  Admittedly, they have almost all the guns.  But, hey, the kids have the guts to face this evil.  We must follow their example.

What are you doing in the month of October?  Why don't you think about spending as much time as you can working on a campaign?  It will alleviate your despair.  I guarantee it.   And, yes, you'll feel awful if you work real hard and you lose.  But not as awful as you'll feel if you sit on your butt and hope for change.

WE CAN DO THIS. 

TERRY

Partaaay to Impeach!!!

I had a Party to Impeach at my house on Saturday, Feb. 17 in San Francisco.  This was one of the many Parties to Impeach organized all over the country by Tom Steyer, the billionaire who's working to create a grassroots movement to get The First Toddler away from the nuclear football. I had 25 guests -- lots of women, both lesbian and straight, and two men.

We read aloud all the talking points the organizers sent us -- why impeach, how it's done, the history, why we should not let the prospect of Pence immobilize us.  We had very stimulating discussions.  What a wide rage of opinions among all us Trump-Loathers!  Every Party all over the country was supposed to phone Nancy Pelosi during the party, because she opposes impeachment.  That is a huge obstacle, since she leads the Dems in the House, which is where impeachment must start.  EVERYONE IN THE COUNTRY!  And she's OUR (as in San Francisco's) representative!!  What to do?!?  (Full disclosure:  I ran against her in 2004 because she supported the invasion of Iraq.)

There's a strong Democratic candidate running in the primary against Pelosi.  Since we have the top-two system, if Stephen Jaffe comes in second, it would be him and NP in the general election.  That would give him a lot of time to hold her feet to the fire about impeachment.  After all, she's our REPRESENTATIVE, and the great majority of the people she is supposed to represent want The First Toddler OUT of the White House!  What her constituents want should mean something to NP, but it doesn't.  

There was a group of Code Pink women at the party who have been trying to get through to Pelosi -- and failing -- for years.  Maybe decades!  They and I agreed that we should meet with Stephen Jaffe and push him to make impeachment part of his platform.  So that's our plan. 

We wrote 88 postcards to Pelosi and also the Dems who already support impeachment.  We also wrote postcards to the 10 Senators who receive the most money from the NRA, telling them they would burn in hell for their sins.  At least, that's what mine said.  Then we took the photo below.  People were extremely happy to be meeting and doing something, even though, when we talked, there was a great diversity of opinion on what to do and how to do it.

IF YOU LIVE IN THE BAY AREA AND WOULD LIKE TO LEARN ABOUT FUTURE EVENTS I MIGHT ORGANIZE, PLEASE TELL ME.

Terry